Sorry, French Toast. I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes, they "just need some space" other times "it's her; not you." a bunch of bull crap. Just get really pissed off about it and it'll keep you from being sad. Anger goes away quicker too.

In a sense, yes.

I grow weary of people who, no matter what the specifics might be, pick one aspect of themselves and wear it like a badge wherever they go.

Their heritage,

or their sexuality

or their religion, etc.

These things become all that they are and then they seperate themselves from the rest of the world.

I know what you mean, but you're currently tangoing on a minefield. Might I ask what your stance on immigrants is?

There are certain kinds of people in certain places who are somehow distinct - racially, religiously, whatever - from the mainstream of their culture. And whether they like it or not, they are going to experience that distinction, that separation - and so, they identify with that.

That's perfectly legitimate, I think. But actively choosing to be part of one group or another as though you do so because you need to add some substance to your life and character is stupid. If you have the option, you should identify only with yourself, your own experiences and ideas.