Friends,Neighbors,Countrymen-lend me your ears...

You know guys, I could go into the melodramatics and slobber this all up, but whats the use? Yeah, I admit my leaving was rather swift in looking at it, but it was really a long time in coming if you think about it. Ask yourself, how many conflicts have occurred in my absence? I imagine very few to be honest about it.

Seriously guys. I am plain and simple tired of all the fights, I come online to get away from it, and yet always seem to either be the cause, or in the middle of almost every ordeal, and thats just wrong. One has to ask, what is the common denominator?

The last time I threatened to leave snarkpit, I left a long letter clear full of self pity, and except for a very few faithful, no one took it seriously, because??? well because Orph just doesn't leave.. I have to admit myself, if I were new to the site, I prolly wouldn't like myself much either, it indeed takes time, and most especially a personal need,to want to get to know
someone, and damned few at snarkpit really want to it seems.

http://www.snarkpit.com/forums.php?forum=2&topic=706&r=67 the catalyst?
yeah, but all in all not really worth quitting over though.

here is where I begin to falter, how does one talk
to people who insist there is hidden meaning contained within everything one writes? I cannot deal with such, its as if they want to fight, and all the
while retain the rights to blame it all on the other party... If nothing else holds true, I have been the same throughout all my online time, I seldom alter my views, and almost never withhold my feelings even when
circumstances dictated otherwise. Why do people always insist I have a hidden agenda? when I am so damned outspoken.

TRANSLATION= "SHUT THE
f**k UP ALREADY WILLYA, WE ARE SO TIRED OF IT ALL" The last straw, even though I admit I was running out of ways to end this properly, friends never tell friends to shut-up. Even if I took this the wrong way, it still says allot about how people deal with people at snarkpit. Opinions- DO NOT HAVE TO BE SHARED WITH
ANYONE TO BE VALID! This is a fact, I have never been able to get anyone else online to share, I
will be the first to acknowledge, my viewpoint on many topics is somewhat narrow, but it is still how I look at them, and no one has the right to say I am wrong in doing so.

People of snarkpit have the same rights as well, but its HOW they word those rights, that is what separates the two. When was the last time I told anyone "YOUR WRONG?", actually I cannot remember using those words,because its just not me. I do, almost always
disagree, but I attempt to state that belief as an opinion, and being opinion it doesn't mention anyone by name, so it remains general in terms. Yes, the fact that I often quote peoples words, seems to be a direct attack
on them, but with text, how else does one bring a topic at snarkpit to center-stage? How often does a topic go astray? and how else would one bring it back to where you want to discuss something without directly quoting
them? Even though I often fail to express myself in any meaningful way, and more often I completely lose the other parties attention doing so, it doesn't mean I intended to have it go that way.

Lastly, friends don't attempt to change friends. This is the main issue here, on several occasions people have tried to change me to their viewpoint, this happens, I understand that,shoot even I do it, BUT when I see that its just not going to happen, I desist and move on,
something damned few others seem able to do. Even all my confrontations with DocRock, I never
attempted to change him, although it did look as if I were, I was in reality just repeatedly pointing out HIS FAULTS, and even that was only payback for the humiliation he gave me that time when I was gone and couldn't even defend myself. Opinions, do not have to be shared to be valid, as long as they are not
destructive, they should
be allowed..

I could copy/paste this response, and use it with every post about a new map, and it would be just as right, and unbiased with each posting, its not a personal attack on anyone, just a comment I think valid and noteworthy
enough to repeat, as many times as it takes to get them to listen. Its not a wrong comment in any way, and it is one that can have far reaching benefits if adhered to. Why people chose to turn it into a fight is totally beyond
me, but the really talented ones always seem to.


This letter has already exceeded my limits on just how long I wanted to explain myself, but I
wanted you to know, my decision wasn't rash, or rushed, and it definitely wasn't easy to make,
but I just cannot handle the confrontationalism anymore, but I also, as long as I have breath,
I cannot overlook one either, so as long as I am around, I will continue to do so, and THATS the reason I left.
If you like, or care to, you may post this at snarkpit, you have my permission, it in no way places blame, it is only intended to explain my apparent disappearance.

Snarkpit is my home, but no more so than [DRS] was, and when the clan grew to tedious to deal with, I left there as well.

be good guys, and yes I am copy/pasting this message, I just cannot bring myself to write it repeatedly, so if you realize I did this, don't be offended.

Orph